Monday, January 30, 2012

loose thread.

I arrived alone.
We sat on a bench, separated by three others, never looking at each other as we awaited our turn.
They called our name and we entered the courtroom.
It felt so matter-of-fact. So wrongly routine. So clinical.
Bits and pieces of our file were read. Custody arrangements. Child support.
I focused hard on a loose thread, wrapping it tightly around my finger as the names and birth dates of our three daughters were read.
Fourteen years ended in about twelve minutes.
While we waited in the clerk's office for the judgment of divorce, another couple waited for their marriage license.
And then, I walked back to work.

11 comments:

Tracie O said...

wow...
birth, death, re-birth-
wishing you only the best in your "rebirth" journey.

Luisa said...

Thanks again for being so open during your journey.

phyllis nobles said...

LOVE that you're writing again and LOVE your new hair. I'm a bit pas en forme at the moment so will be back in a day or two to read & comment with care xx.

Anonymous said...

Something tells me you will come out of this just fine. I'm sure you already know that. You still have everything that makes life beautiful (the love of your children, your family...all that good stuff). Today is merely the formal ending needed for a new journey to begin...a really, really, really good journey.

Cheers to your new journey! Cheers to all the good things present, and all that's to come!

Elliot.

Happy Mama (Lisa Gonzalez) said...

I just gave a great sigh when I thought about all of the emotions you must have felt.

Sending love from here to there.

Anonymous said...

i'm sorry..this cannot be easy..you will be okay...baby steps..the new year awaits...

Kristen Maddux said...

It's crazy to me how many people go thru the pain and devistation of divorce (and the tough stuff of single parenting), yet how little (in comparison) it is talked about openly and honestly--like you do. I know it probably isn't easy to "go there," but I'm so glad you are brave enough to. It's needed. I'm sure there are readers who find a comforting "me too" in your words.

phyllis nobles said...

stripped completely of melodrama and sentimentality - the way the best account of heartbreaking news is given - I feel the iceberg of pain that lies underneath. very Hemingway. very Jean Rhys. I am here. Always.

Anonymous said...

I want to find the time to write comments on each post you have written lately. I will be back for that sometime soon. For now, you are amazing and inspiring. Also, an extremely talented writer.

As you said, 14 years may have ended in 12 minutes. However, even as a "stranger", I am proud of you for being brave and deciding that you are worth the happiness now and all future years.

Jill B (Overland Park, KS)

Becky at lifeoutoffocus said...

What a hard day. Even when you know it's the right choice I imagine it's not easy...sending you hugs

Evelyn Louise said...

I cannot imagine.
Prayers for you and your girls are going up.